Is there actually money to help veterans live in long term care?

Posted on January 27, 2014

Dear Clare, My dad will be going into long term care for dementia. We found a place we feel comfortable with but the cost is beyond what we can afford. I saw VA helps for veterans but was told by many people it really does not exist except for veterans hurt in the war. Is there actually money to help veterans live in long term care? Is it like medicaid where you have to have very little assets? Dad has a small nest egg but it will last less ...

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What are the symptoms of ataxia?

Posted on December 2, 2013

Dear Clare, What are the symptoms of ataxia? Signed, M’Lissa   Dear M’Lissa, Thanks for your question, it’s a great one! The word ataxia comes from the Greek word "a taxis," which means "without order or without coordination." So, ataxia means without coordination. People with ataxia experience a failure of muscle control in their arms and legs which may cause a lack of balance, coordination, and possibly a ...

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I care for my husband, Frank, and am just having a terrible time communicating with him!

Posted on October 30, 2013

 Dear Clare, I care for my husband, Frank, and am just having a terrible time communicating with him! He often jumbles his words and doesn’t make sense. Sometimes, he has trouble finding a word and when he does, it’s mispronounced. How can we determine what he wants or is trying to say? — Befuddled in Boynton Beach   Dear Befuddled: This is a common challenge we face when caring for people living with Alzheimer’s or a ...

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I take care of my husband at home and lately he has been giving me a very hard time whenever I try to help him with bathing or dressing.

Posted on October 26, 2013

  Hi Clare, I take care of my husband at home and lately he has been giving me a very hard time whenever I try to help him with bathing or dressing. I am wondering…is it my approach? Worn out in Warren, OH     Dear Worn Out, You are so right that, many times, how we approach a person with dementia affects the success of our interaction. We need a partnership with the person and remembering that your husband simply ...

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My Mother is a new resident in a dementia care community and they are telling me that she is up all night.

Posted on October 23, 2013

  My Mother is a new resident in a dementia care community and they are telling me that she is up all night. The aides there put her to bed at 7:30 p.m., and by 10 p.m. she is up and wandering the halls. When they try to put her back to bed, she is awake and moving around within 10 minutes. This goes on all night long. What can we do? – “Dan”--Son of a Night owl   Dear Dan, Don’t worry! It’s very common for people ...

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The holidays are upon us and I am just not sure how much to involve my Mom in the family celebrations.

Posted on October 19, 2013

  Dear Clare, The holidays are upon us and I am just not sure how much to involve my Mom in the family celebrations. She has middle-stage Alzheimer’s and her memory and ability to communicate are pretty limited. She still enjoys company but sometimes gets very stressed out with lots of people around. I know I will feel guilty if I leave her out of any of the festivities. How do I make the holidays go smoother? Worried Mrs. Claus &...

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